Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Effable, Very

Holy guacamole!

I'm no saint, that's for sure. I'm a screw-up and probably neurotic in a dozen different ways that I'm not even aware of at this point, but there's a line, you know?

And I've had a line severely crossed in the last few days. Actually, it was happening last winter, but I only found out about it now. The things you don't know...

Himself and I have been seeing another acupuncturist in the past year, on and off, because the other one was so busy, and this lady had a specialty we were interested in. And jeepers, she seemed SO nice, and wanted to HELP, and she certainly was good with the needles. I referred people to her all the time, friends and clients of mine, and she smiled in my face and talked about collaborating as practitioners....

And this weekend I found out that through last winter she had posted, on a semi-public forum, a very detailed description of the Spouse's medical condition, her take on our family dynamics, her opinion of all the ways in which we were dysfunctional, and then had a Madcap & Co. flaming party with the other practitioners on the site. Our names weren't used, but hers was.

When I found out, I went and had a look, and printed copies of the pages concerning us. Should be useful. She'd already had the moderator wipe a bunch of it out, but there were enough traces left that it's pretty unmistakable what was going on.

This was someone who has professional obligations through her association, obligations of confidentiality, respect, and compassion towards clients. I'm pretty sure this doesn't qualify.

The prevailing winds of incivility are disturbing.

8 comments:

CONSTANTINE said...

Is this the "Whoa Nellie" person? I hope not, but then again, maybe that would be better. Two separate folks acting the way they have or are is more than your share.

CG said...

again, you have some great information at your disposal. Your gut probably told you something similar about both these situations. At least, I've found that to be true when I've found myself in situations not entirely dissimilar from those.

Alecto said...

I'm snarling already.

Madcap said...

Constantine - Not, not Nellie, another one. And this is so much closer to home, and I still feel like I've been punched in the gut.

CG - Basically I don't trust anyone at all and haven't for some time now, and I don't think that's healthy for me as a human. My bells are going off all the time, and I'm trying to ignore them somewhat so that I can interact with people. But then this happens. I need another option...

But yeah, there came a point where she wanted to play psychotherapist, and I just wanted acupuncture, and things fell apart from there. But that was this summer - these postings were happening back in the winter when she was still smiling in my face. And at that point, no, I didn't suspect at all.

Alecto - Thank you for snarling on my behalf. I didn't have enough teeth to snarl as much as the situation demanded.

But I'm sleeping again, thank goodness!

Alecto said...

I'd be more than happy to bite on your behalf as well. Glad you're sleeping. I am too and it helps. (who knew?)

Will Shakesbeer said...

The world is growne fo bad, that wrens make prey where eagles dare not pearch

an encourager said...

Can you say 'wrong'? That was wrong on so many levels!!! I am sorry you had/have to go through that!

Madcap said...

W.S. - Pleased to hear from you! Fo bad indeed... that particular wren has seen the light since though, I think.

A.E. - It was wrong, but I'll tell you, it's really solidified some things in my mind, things I was wondering about regarding being a practitioner myself, and a human, and maintaining humility in spite of a trend within that sphere of practice, of assuming that "we" know best for people. "We" don't, and certainly I don't.